Making Heads or Tails of Grief

Hello, bloggy reader friends.  How have you been?  Honestly…the past couple of weeks have been ridiculously sad around here due to the passing of Jolie.  Saying goodbye to her was brutal, but it is slowly getting better with each passing day.  Jared, Pugsley, Wednesday and I are all beginning to adjust to our “new normal.”

Wednesday and Pugsley are coming out of their doggy funk.  I am so grateful for their kisses and snuggles.  They need and have been a source of comfort.

The first few days I found myself dissolving into a series of ugly cries that would rival some of Kim Kardashian’s best work.  Sometimes we found ourselves crying over things that would seem innocuous.  From picking up dog poop to finding her bag of Hip & Joint dog treats.

Less dog poop should be considered a perk, right?  RIGHT?!  Let’s be real.  I’d pick up her dog poop forever if it meant that she could always be with me.

And then there have been the situations that I would expect to bring a gush of tears.  Cards and emails from our vets and dog walking service released the hounds from my tear ducts (pun intended).  But it was the call from the Pet Loss Center letting me know that Jolie’s ashes were available for pick-up that required me to pull over my car.  The voice that came across my Bluetooth was empathetic as I did my best to choke out words that resembled “Thank you for letting me know.”

There is nothing that represents the finality of life than a beautiful box with “Jolie” engraved on a nameplate.

I really, really miss my girl.  Gah.  

Comfort has been found where expected – Jared, the puppies, friends, and family.  But it’s also been found via trashy television.  Has anyone seen VH-1’s Rock of Love series featuring Bret Michaels from ten years ago?  It’s horrific and entertaining.  Thank you, Amazon Prime, for providing me with access to that vintage dumpster fire.

I’m serious.  I need more Rock of Love in my life.  I’m looking at you, VH1.

What do you do during times of grief or extreme sadness?  What brings you comfort?  Why do noses have to get involved in the crying process?

Work Hard.  Play Hard.  Drink Sparkling Water When You’ve Had Enough Chard.


P.S.  I am sorry for the references to poop.  In my defense, I am still pretty broken up.  And the poop emoji IS my favorite.

P.P.S.  I promise lighter fare next time around.  I really thought this post was going to have more frothy elements to it, but apparently, my psyche and fingertips have a mind of their own.  Jerks.



  • Kristen

    There is nothing wrong with letting your grief play out. Animals are such a huge part of our lives, and losing a pack member takes time to recover from. Be kind to yourself, it will become easier when the time is right.

  • Amber

    Oh no, I’m so sorry. It’s always sad when we lose a family member–I consider pets to be family members.

    • lauriegannon1

      Hi, Amber! I always referred to Jolie as my kid (since I don’t have children). She was definitely family. 🙂

    • lauriegannon1

      We have two other dogs at home, but the quiet of her absence is pretty profound. Thank you for your condolences!

  • Sweet Southern Savings

    Our Squeaks is over 10 and I don’t know what we will do when we lose him. He’s such a big part of our lives. My heart goes out to you.

    • lauriegannon1

      I love the name “Squeaks”. It’s really, really difficult, but I am so grateful that she and I had 14 years together. It does go by way too quickly.

  • Amber Gardner

    I have no reference cause I’m not a pet person. However, everyone must go through a time of transition when they lose someone. Just don’t become stuck in it because your sweetie would not want you to stay there.

  • Princess Quinn

    I am sorry for your loss. I have lost my pet too. Sadly, after 2 months of battling from a viral disease, she passed away in the middle of the night. What I did to overcome the grief is adopting another pet, this time it’s a dog. And she is giving me great joy. But, I still miss my cat, Pishi.

  • Dalene Ekirapa

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your pet and I agree, if I loved one like you did, I’d rather pick up poop forever. I hope you get over the loss but now, feel comfortable grieving.

  • Olga Zak

    There is nothing wrong with letting your grief play out. It’s sad when we lose a family member as I consider pets to be family members.

  • lisakunk

    We just lost our precious funny faces hound dog a few days ago. I’m still processing as are my two older dogs and cat who wonder what the heck happened? Where is Sadie? I just blogged about this whole event although I didn’t want to. It’s hard. At this moment I’m surrounded by our pets and our grand dog who keeps me hopping by playing fetch with his blue ball as often as possible. He’s a happy face himself and has brought noise and activity which helps greatly. Only we dog lovers understand all this.

    • lauriegannon1

      I am so sorry for your loss! It’s such a transitional time for you and your family. I am sending healing thoughts and hugs your way. I hope Jolie and Sadie are playing together!!

      Blogging during grief is hard. Believe me…I understand. 🤗

      • lisakunk

        Thanks so much. That would be delightful. I usually write with a tad of humor so writing a sad piece was out of my comfort zone for sure. I tried to look at the healing aspect of the other animals as gifts. Thanks again.

      • lauriegannon1

        I tend to write with humor, too. When I thought I would have to put Jolie down the first time, I wrote her a love letter. It had some humor but I was writing through tears the whole time. She was with me for another six weeks after that. Man…I am getting teared up thinking about this. I miss her so much. The pain definitely lessens but I will always, always miss her.

      • lisakunk

        I get that. Sometimes it is so freeing to let the tears run down the cheeks and drop onto whatever your wearing and just not care. Just let them fall.

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